Growing Pains

Marriage is difficult. I know everyone knows that. Let me tell you why marriage is difficult for me. I have a very strong desire to be perfect. I want to do everything exactly right. When you get to know people really well, you begin to see their flaws, and the better my wife knows me, the more she sees my shortcomings. Obvioulsy she loves me despite them, but she will bring them up and say, you might want to work on that. I don't want to work on things. I have a tendancy towards agression. If I have a problem with something, I'm usually less than subtle about it. I jump to conclusions about thing and react, instead of thoughtfully processing. I'm a very stereo-typical type A agressive guy. Sometimes that's good, but sometimes it's like a bull in a china shop. It is difficult for me to hear my wife say I need to change some things, but it's impossible not to listen.